All my spoons are in all the right places, if you know what I'm talkin' about...

 

I will shiver every time I hear this.  The heteronormative and rigid gender fears that so many parents instill in their children is exactly the opposite of how I would want to treat my hypothetical children.  

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antiantifeminist:

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MORE ADS ACKNOWLEDGING MALE VICTIMS OF RAPE.

This shouldn’t be a shocking ad, but it is.  Men aren’t vicious assault-machines who are all struggling daily to hold back their rapeyness.  We’re all people, and we all have the capability to be hurt, or to feel vulnerable or afraid.  

mattreadsthings:

antiantifeminist:

yes good

YES GOOD MORE OF THIS

MORE ADS ACKNOWLEDGING MALE VICTIMS OF RAPE.

This shouldn’t be a shocking ad, but it is.  Men aren’t vicious assault-machines who are all struggling daily to hold back their rapeyness.  We’re all people, and we all have the capability to be hurt, or to feel vulnerable or afraid.  

(Source: armenianqueen)

Heart Conditions and Lupus: And some sexism as a bonus!

Heart Disease has become one of the leading causes of death in Lupus patients, giving Kidney Failure a run for it’s money. As Chronically Ill patients, are hearts are more vulnerable to many issues than the rest of the population.  But heart disease isn’t the only thing we need to watch out for.

The Lupus Foundation lists these as major risk factors for Lupus patients and I’ll go into each of them in more detail here:

  • Pericarditis: inflammation of the lining of the heart.  This is actually fairly common in Lupus patients and is treatable, and easily if caught early enough. The treatment can be as simple as taking some ibuprofen to reduce inflammation, but might need something stronger.  Patients report heart attack-like symptoms (swelling of the ankles, chest pain, erratic heart beat and other chest discomfort).  So far, we don’t see any successful prevention.

  • Myocarditis: inflammation of the tissue of the heart.  This is much more rare, but also extremely serious and dangerous.  Your risk for this increases if you’ve recently had a severe viral infection or are currently experiencing a Lupus flare.  A possible result of this condition is heat failure and can be deadly, but it is not common.  Still, be aware of the symptoms: unexplained fever, chest pain, joint swelling, an inability to lay flat, irregular heart beat, and fainting.

  • Coronary vasculitis: inflammation of blood vessels in the heart.  All rheumatic diseases are at risk for this one.  Again, this one looks to be very treatable with NSAIDs, but it needs to be identified first!  The symptoms look similar to the two above conditions, but add an unexpected and unexplained weight loss to the list, as well as neurological symptoms (stroke, migraines).  This condition will typically come on suddenly.

  • Pleuritis: inflammation of the sac around the lung.  Risk for this is increased if you have had a pulmonary infection or condition recently, or have been exposed to asbestos.  Treatment for this can also be pretty simple, and would likely be a combination of anti-inflammatorys and antibiotics.  The symptoms to look out for would be a rapid breathing pattern, trouble breathing, and a bluish tint to your skin tone.

  • Pneumonitis: inflammation of the lung.  Pneumonia does fall into this category of Lung diseases.  Treatment for these conditions can be easy, again using a combination of anti-inflammatorys and antibiotics.  However, since these can affect one’s ability to breathe they can become dangerous very quickly and you may need oxygen support while you are being treated.  Anytime you have trouble breathing, you should go to a doctor or Emergency Room.

  • Pulmonary emboli: blood clots in the lung.  A pulmonary embolism can be life-threatening.  It is extremely treatable but if it is not caught, the problem will escalate quickly.  Symptoms include: Shortness of breath and trouble breathing, chest pain described similarly to a heart attack, clammy or bluish hands, a weak pulse, fainting, and a cough that might produce bloody fluid.  Get yourself to an Emergency Room if these symptoms come up.

Now, my title mentioned sexism.  What could sexism possibly have to do with heart conditions?  Quite a bit, actually.  

In the past, medical professionals have traditionally ignored or downplayed the symptoms or complaints of women, especially those related to the heart.  Since many of these conditions have symptoms also associated with anxiety attacks (heart attack-like symptoms present without an episode), these symptoms historically have been attributed to the natural hysterics that we women are obviously guilty of.  This is an ongoing problem.  Women are less likely to be taken seriously even still when they approach their doctor (male OR female) with heart symptoms, will be treated more often with a mental or emotional disorder that they may or may not even have, and we are only just recently acknowledging the different heart attack symptoms that women experience that men do not.  
Since the vast majority of Lupus patients are women, you could see how this could be a major issue for us.  (Also, men, be weary that if you are even perceived as being feminine, this stigma will still apply to you.)  
Make sure that if you feel any of these symptoms that you do a few things to make sure you get the consideration you need and deserve.  
  • Arm yourself with knowledge.  Don’t just say to your doctor, “I feel this or that”.  Know the terms for these symptoms, and know what they are associated with, and use those words with you Doctor and nurses.
  • Announce your pre-existing condition!  If you have Lupus, and are experiencing sudden chest pain, do not just roll into the ER and let them examine you.  Tell everyone, from the ambulance drive to the doctors that you are a high-risk Lupus patient.  Get this point across.  
  • Always follow up.  If the ER releases you saying that your not in immediate risk, GREAT!  But you still need answers.  Get to a specialist and your primary doctor and look further into this.

Sexism and the Humanities - Troll Professor

So I just started a class called Sexism and the Humanities, and today was our first real day of class discussion.  The short version: I spoke my mind and all hell broke loose. 

Here’s the long version:

I’m not sure yet if the Professor is trolling us to get us riled up, playing devil’s advocate, or being completely serious.  But he starts class by having me transcribe his notes onto the board…notes that say that social constructs are what define culture, not natural laws.  Ok, cool.  We influence each other over time and create a set of societal norms that don’t really mean anything outside of what we let them.  Got it, we’re cool.  Then he opens up discussion by asking a question:

Do all men cheat?

Now I have trained myself to be immediately critical of any sweeping generalization.  Any statement that starts with “everybody does x” or “all these people do x” or “every time x”.  Red flags go up, and for good reason!  So I say, “No.  Of course not.  Just like not all women want to get married and have babies.”  I assumed, being in a college level course specifically about stereotypes, that my answer would be met with a general sense of agreement or at least an acknowledgement against vast generalizations.  Instead, I’m told that I’m wrong.  That ALL men cheat.  Then follows a heated discussion about stereotyping and generalizations that leads to a particular opinion of the professor. 

He tells us that people are basically bad, and will do anything they think they can get away with, with no regard for anyone else.  (i.e. all people would cheat given the opportunity; there is no such thing as altruism) And then the part that struck me as odd - that no one ever changes, and morality never evolves.  Naturally, I question this.  I bring up the more obvious examples: we don’t burn witches anymore, women can vote and participate in society, people can’t own other people.  I explain that morality evolves in the same way that biology does - gradually.  And that today might not seem better than yesterday, but it’s certainly better than 50 years ago, etc. 

Hostility!  I’m told that NOTHING is different in all our years of existence simply because racism, misogyny, and homophobia still exist.  That we’ve come no distance and that there’s really no point in working to change things.  And I’m about 90% sure that the professor was serious. 

This discussion went on all class, with me citing statistics, and peer reviewed studies and being countered with generalizations and stereotypes.  In a class about sexism!  I’ve never been more frustrated! 

Then the professor singles me out and says something to this affect:

“You care about this stuff now, but society will slowly chip away at you and eventually you’ll be sitting in your corporate office in your three piece suit, following the rules and procedures and probably doing terrible things to other women.”

I snapped back, “Well, behind closed doors maybe.”  And the whole class laughs. 

In my opinion, the class laughing proves my point.  They weren’t disgusted by or irritated by or offended by a lighthearted joke about homosexuality.  I think no more than a few years ago I’d have been kicked out of class.  Is our societies morality perfect?  Far from it.  Does a perfect morality exist?  Probably not!  But are things better now than they were? 

Without question.  My very discussion with this man proves it.  He’s a black man teaching at a university who deserves and receives respect, and I’m a young woman who can challenge an authority figure and deserve and receive respect right back.  This was not always possible, and is increasingly more possible each passing year.